#2 Respectfully, Fuck Love Languages

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

In this episode of the You’re Doing Great Podcast, Ruby and Kate suggest there's a better way to *make love* than by taking a bunch of self-help quizzes and trying to perform love. It can be better. They turn their (loving but not blind) gaze to one of pop-psychology’s favorite tools: “The 5 Love Languages.” While they acknowledge that frameworks can be useful, they also name the very real ways these ideas can be oversimplified, commercialized, and weaponized in relationships.

Where to go next:

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal