the Self Study Papers
Welcome to the blog by the Duality Project. We're so glad you're here. Within these papers, you'll find stories, explorations of ideas, emotions, and learnings. Take what you need and leave the rest.
it was heartfelt circa 2016. our very first retreat. friday evening. post-dinner. the session when we go over the expectations for the weekend.
"and finally, get comfortable being uncomfortable."
in the same split-second, kate and I glanced at each other. like our two brains were one, we...
Storytime with Kate
We're in the theme of Courage in the 2024 Self Study Program and if you've read anything about courage from us, you know that where there's courage, there's also always fear.
I've been single since I was 24. I had a longterm boyfriend from 18-24. We had known each other since...
june 22nd, 2024 is the 15th year anniversary of my dad's passing. his birthday, father's day, and his death date all smush up against one another in a burst of tender feelings mid-june, and the corner of my heart where grief abides swells.
the funny thing about grief is that it never goes...
Storytime with Kate
summertime in the south is one of my favorite things.
the summer fruits. the gardens overflowing with fresh everything. the neighbors out in the streets. everybody coming out of their homes and saying hello.
the strawberries. the tomatoes. the generosity. the...
Storytime with Ruby
I should have known this was a red flag.
In my last relationship my boyfriend acted like he didn't have any needs or that all his needs were met all the time. (Lucky him, I guess?!)
But that means that when I expressed that I had some needs...
Which was honestly a new concept...
Storytime with Ruby
Wanna know a secret?
I have a mini-freakout every time I press send; on instagram, via email, for work.
Some days are easier than others, but I can feel my nervous system toggle into 'on'-mode the moment the piece goes out into the world.
What happens next? Will people...
Storytime with Kate
I have just DEVOURED Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse.
Before you dive into this I do want to make a disclaimer: I'm annoyed that a lot of the internet is like "everyone and everything is a narcissist" because that's just not true....
Storytime with Ruby
When I was on the brink of leaving a 10 year relationship in the middle of a pandemic, I had to ask myself:
What's scarier?...
Making this choice for myself?
OR
Waking up in five years and realizing that literally nothing has changed (or the things that had changed were not my...
Storytime with Kate
so, I've been on anti-depressants/anti-anxiety two times in my life.
Once when I was a teenager and my parents were going through a divorce and I lived in the house with them.
The second time was when I lived in a small town in Colorado after selling my business...
Storytime with Ruby
Howdy,
In my last relationship I spent a long time being patient. Hoping things would change; hoping he would change. I resisted the acceptance necessary to see clearly. Finally, I got fed up. I said “I can’t do this anymore,” and walked out.
From the outside...
Storytime with Ruby
Storytime with Kate
As Ruby said in last week's newsletter: Life really be life-in', dontcha think?
*you'll notice words highlighted in yellow below: they are some of the themes of the My Self Study Practice - they're highlighted like this to show you how they've show up in real time for me...
