Storytime with Ruby

Has this ever happened to you?

You reach out to a friend to hang out.

One week later you meet up at a cute, local coffee shop mid-morning on a Friday.

You both get a chai latte and a little treat.

You sit outside because it's perfect 70 degree weather and overcast.

Your friend...

Inventory day at any retail or restaurant job normally SUCKSSSSS. This isn't that :) We're doing life inventory

If you're anything like me, and I know you are because you're here...

you work hard. on yourself. a lot.

The other day I was in my dream car that I recently bought for myself...

I just got back from a spontaneous and life-changing trip to London to see my college bestie (and Taylor Swift!!!). We have another friend from college who is the photographer for Paramore (they opened for Taylor on the European leg of the Eras Tour). When he reached out to my friend about...

I'm not sure if you've noticed, but we were kind of given a step by step direction manual: school, marriage, house, kids, work, *shhh* (divorce), retirement, die.

yikes, it honestly sounds bleak when I just type it out like that.

Well, and yeah. It has actually always felt really bleak to...

 I just moved across the country for the fourth time in my short 32 years. The difference this time is that there's no home to move in to. Jake and I have decided to spend the rest of this year with family and to take 2025 as an opportunity to travel. We have no plan. We have no idea where...

it was heartfelt circa 2016. our very first retreat. friday evening. post-dinner. the session when we go over the expectations for the weekend. 

"and finally, get comfortable being uncomfortable."

in the same split-second, kate and I glanced at each other. like our two brains were one, we...

Storytime with Kate

We're in the theme of Courage in the 2024 Self Study Program and if you've read anything about courage from us, you know that where there's courage, there's also always fear.

I've been single since I was 24. I had a longterm boyfriend from 18-24. We had known each other since...

june 22nd, 2024 is the 15th year anniversary of my dad's passing. his birthday, father's day, and his death date all smush up against one another in a burst of tender feelings mid-june, and the corner of my heart where grief abides swells.

the funny thing about grief is that it never goes...

Storytime with Kate

summertime in the south is one of my favorite things.

the summer fruits. the gardens overflowing with fresh everything. the neighbors out in the streets. everybody coming out of their homes and saying hello.

the strawberries. the tomatoes. the generosity. the...

Storytime with Ruby

I should have known this was a red flag.

In my last relationship my boyfriend acted like he didn't have any needs or that all his needs were met all the time. (Lucky him, I guess?!)

But that means that when I expressed that I had some needs...

Which was honestly a new concept...

Storytime with Ruby

Wanna know a secret?

I have a mini-freakout every time I press send; on instagram, via email, for work.

Some days are easier than others, but I can feel my nervous system toggle into 'on'-mode the moment the piece goes out into the world.

What happens next? Will people...

Storytime with Kate

I have just DEVOURED Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse.

Before you dive into this I do want to make a disclaimer: I'm annoyed that a lot of the internet is like "everyone and everything is a narcissist" because that's just not true....